Sunday, October 24, 2010

Working My A** Off Lately....

My son has had a rough couple of weeks. One day he did really well in school, but had a major meltdown at daycare. The very next day, he had a great day at daycare, but got sent to the office at school. I use all the strategies read in the books and remind him of the calming techniques learned at therapy. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

I always post about the musings of my boy. The word unique comes up a lot when I write about our conversations. The reason he has such a unique outlook on things is because he has a lovely combination of ADHD, OCD, and "Asperger like traits" (as quoted by the psychologist). This makes life REAL interesting in the Lady Di household.

I was watching a documentary on parenting children with Autism and Aspergers and one parent said something very profound. He said, "We kept looking for a "fix". Then we realized there is no fix, just work." He is exactly right. These children don't fit inside the box of what many would consider "normal". Instead of trying to stuff them inside this "box" we need to accept them for who they are and change OUR way of thinking. It may be work, but it's worth it....because hey let's face it, being normal can be so boring.

Keep your face to the sunshine and you can not see the shadow - Helen Keller



June Freaking Cleaver said...

Never let him feel that being different is's just different.

And since autism is being diagnosed so often now, he's going to meet other kids who "get" him.

We struggle daily with others' expectations vs. what is my son's reality.

Gaia said...

I was thinking of writing a post on this sometime back. My son had been taking about his friends... they had ADHD, OCD and some other abbreviations I have not heard. My in the past, there was no such diagnosis. They are just called hyper, cannot sit still, not focussed, playful. I wonder if being labelled by a psychologist such will hurt them more! To me we are all different and unique in our ways thats all.

my little world said...

so true. People always are quick to judge, but if more people understood about Autism then maybe they would be more patient.

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