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Thursday, May 14, 2009

Writers Workshop: Trying a Different Way


It's that time again. Time for Mama Kat's Workshop. Go here for the prompts. I picked #2. It might not be that long because I had truly planned on getting this done and then going to bed early but here it is 10:20 and I am just getting started because my internet connection had other ideas. Even as I write this I see the message at the bottom could not contact Blogger.com Saving and publishing may fail.  Gerrrr! Which means I will be up for awhile..........

2) Tomorrow I will do it differently. Here's how.......

Tomorrow when my 3 1/2 year old (the middle one, I am thinking about calling her JT for Just Trouble) gets the soap for the umpteenth time from the bathroom and spreads it on the foot stool, a stuffed animal, her baby sister, really anything she thinks needs, I don't know, washing maybe.  I will not get completely irritated and raise my voice. Instead I will bend down to her level and I will give her a hug and tell her I love her and I REALLY want her to try to listen to what Mommy says. Because getting angry is not working with her and even though the reasoning thing  has never worked before I am going to use the power of positive thinking and hope that my calm reaction will reach her.

Tomorrow when that same 3 1/2 year old takes all the tupperware out of my cupboard to her room (while I am teaching my Oldest across the house) and opens her baby sisters soy milk and decides to empty it into above mentioned tupperware resulting in major spillage of milk onto my carpet (mainly by her baby sister who happens to be in there and is thinking that this is great fun).  I will not overreact instead I will be patient, clean up the mess and again kneel down and give my little determined, stubborn, hard headed child a kiss and tell her I love her and ask her to work really hard to try and not to make such messes.

Tomorrow when I walk into her room expecting my two little girls to be playing together to see again that same 3 1/2 year old trying to be Mommy and changing her baby sisters diaper using diaper cream and notice that it is all over her, her baby sister, and the carpet that I have already cleaned once. I will not put her in the naughty chair, I will not get upset. Instead I will kneel down give her a kiss, and tell her that although I appreciate her help  Mommy should take care of the diaper changing because that is my job and if she wants to help than Mommy will let her fasten the diaper.

and tomorrow when I walk into my kitchen (after I realize its much to quiet and she has to be into something perhaps some more soap)  just to find that little rambunctious, strong - willed  3 1/2 year old lying on my kitchen rug sound asleep I will carry her into her bedroom, lie her on her bed, lay down beside her, wrap my arms around her and thank my Heavenly Father for blessing me with such a beautiful, loving, caring, incredibly adorable, super silly, truly sweet little girl who will teach me many things but above all -  patience.  That is one thing I won't do differently!

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13 comments:

Trudy said...

That is a very sweet post and I can tell you are a wonderful mother. Sorry the computer gave you troubles, didn't it just know that it was Writer's Workshop day...geez?!

Kimberly said...

Oh no, children get more creative and clever as they get older? I'm already amazed at what my 22 month old is capable of doing and how much patience it takes from me to allow her these discoveries (messes). You are a sweet mama! I love this post :)

Amy said...

I really loved this post. I think we all have a day like that. I know because I had mine yesterday with my little one. At the end of the day I was so happy to have her as I rocked her to sleep. Today is a new day and we shall see what it brings us. Have a wonderful day.

Nori D said...

Great post!

Mama, I can relate to you. I have a 21 month old, who happens to be the middle one, and goes by name Lady Fierce. Does that tell ya something? Recently, Ive pulled back from getting too upset at the things she does. Ive started talking to her more about her actions, and kissing her when she does something that drives me nuts, and you know what? It has helped calm things a bit. Itll work out for you guys too.

monica said...

Patience are so hard to do. I know that I need to practice more patience! That is a great post and said perfectly. Some of the crazy things your middle one does is just crazy!! She is just a precious child and need some direction, and you are the perfect person for that challange!! Love you all! Good luck today. I hope your plan works out!

Erin said...

Sounds like you have your day all planned out! I hope it all goes as planned! Maybe she will surprise you? she might behave?
When I mention patience to a friend she says if she wanted patience she would have been a nurse. =)
We call my 23 month old son, DESTRUCTO....maybe JT would be a little more subtle?

The Blonde Duck said...

What a great post! I think we all wish for more patience.

Kitty said...

That is such a wonderful post! Good luck keeping your cool in ALL those situations!The last paragraph is beautiful!! Thanks for stopping by my blog too!

heather said...

Great post!! :)

Lady Di said...

Hi Amy, Sorry I've been MIA. It's fair week!!! And it's been a strange, interesting, slightly depressing, week in general. I will call you at some point and fill you in, but I can't say when that will be. Hopefully by Sunday I will have a chance to call. Great post.

Blogging Mama Andrea said...

That was beautiful! A wonderful reminder for my own on occassion (couch couch) yelling self to remember that they need hugs sometimes in order to listen. And they are kids.

Thanks for stopping by my blog yesterday and lettting me know my link was messed up :)

Mama Nut said...

Yet, for me it's always tomorrow and never today... :)

Mama Kat said...

I should read this daily...I just get a much faster reaction when I yell about something than when I get down and talk sweetsy. I just don't always feel great about myself when I do it. :(

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